There was a time I was totally against downloading a dating app. Despite You’ve Got Mail being one of my favorite movies of all time, the thought of meeting my potential S.O. online felt unnatural, uncomfortable, and a little scary. Unless T-Hanks was going to IM me and tell me about his love for freshly sharpened pencils, I was not game. But then, I moved to Manhattan.
There was no way we could discuss the best dating apps without mentioning the granddaddy of them all. Match was at the top of the dating game long before apps existed, and its experience shows. You don’t have to log into the app via Facebook — though you will have to go through a signup process that requires you to add a few photos, answer some questions about your gender and preferences, and create a username and password.
To avoid the awkwardness of a one-on-one with a stranger, Match.com hosts group hangouts so you can get to know a lot of singles without any pressure. The Bucket List Event Series even pairs you up based on things you’d like to do before you die so you can make new and exciting memories to further foster a relationship. The website and app are both easy to use and because your matches appear with a compatibility number, you’re more likely to have something in common. Adding something unique to your profile like your favorite MLB team is also a fun add-on a lot of other dating websites lack.
As for how to approach potential hookup partners you've matched with, transparency and manners are important, as always. "The key to initiating a hookup over a dating app is to exercise patience," says Caleb Hacke, health and wellness expert at Maple Holistics. "Ultimately, it's more important to make sure you don't offend or put off anyone who isn't interested in a hookup than it is to get your point across as boldly and as quickly as possible."
That having been said, using an app to get lucky also has its downsides. Putting out feelers for a casual hookup to strangers you haven't met yet can get dicey fairly quickly. Figuring out the right approach can take some time, too. You want to make your intentions known, but you need to do so in a way that doesn't come off too strong or make her feel uncomfortable. You'll need to exchange a few messages to see if you two are feeling each other, but you don't want to become pen pals with someone you're just trying to get it on with, either.