There's a difference between wanting a long-term, serious, monogamous relationship and wanting to get married ASAP. For those who aren't looking for a spouse just yet and thus can't see themselves signing up for eharmony but who are also so over Tinder, Match is a good compromise. Match boasts the perfect levels of serious and fun, offering a spot for people to express exactly what they're looking for so that there's no confusion down the road. 
Why it's awesome: It's the dating app version of the Sadie Hawkins dance, created by ex-Tinder employees (ooh, drama). In an attempt to correct one of the common complaints of dating apps — that women get spammed with tons of creepy messages — women are required to message first with Bumble. It pushes some women out of their comfort zone, but it's a nice change of pace. And if you don't message, you could possibly be un-matching with the love of your life, and that's way worse than being ignored. It also takes the pressure off of dudes who feel like they need to start the conversation every time. (We knew you were gonna ask, so yes, with same-sex matches either party can start things off.) Matches expire after 24 hours so you can't agonize over that opening line for too long, and your match list won't be filled with people you forgot you matched with 57 weeks ago. This tactic is apparently working, as Bumble's founder claims that 60% of matches result in a conversation.
On Feeld, you can ask someone what they’re into, and they’ll tell you. It’s an honest relief to not go through the charade of getting drinks with someone, only to have them say they’re “not looking for anything serious” before trying to kiss you. And because some people are into very specific things, they’re good at articulating what those things are. Which allows everyone to enter into an arrangement with a clearer understanding of what each party wants. Communication is the first step in consent.
Feeld allows people to get very specific about who they are and what they’re interested in, and it follows that most of the people on it have given this some thought. The people on the app share a baseline of understanding regarding the many varieties of gender and sexual identity, something you won’t find on most other dating apps unless they’re focused on the LGBTQ community. No one ever messages me and asks what it means when I say that I’m pansexual. My profile says “cis het men” are last in my line of interests, and no one ever gets mad about that either. Not even the cis het men—they still message me.
You also need to consider if it’s safe and reputable. Some things to look for are SSL encryption, profile verification, Block and Report buttons (for abusive members), and a 24/7 customer support team (even if it’s via email). The dating app doesn’t necessarily have to have all of these components, but the more it has, the less you’ll have to worry.

Pure offers a short window for chatting, deleting conversations and photos exchanged between users an hour after they've been sent. That means you spend more time getting busy and less time exchanging niceties. It is overtly branded as a hookup app, so you know the intentions of whoever you're chatting with without having to play the guessing game. Not only does this app protect your anonymity by making messages and images self-destruct, but it's also free to download. Talk about a win-win.


International Single Girls is a premium international dating website. Signing up is free. The website has been verified as secure by GoDaddy. All information you submit through the site is kept strictly confidential and not distributed to any other organization. If you want to browse the profiles of thousands of beautiful women, many of whom hail from Russian and Eastern Europe, this is the dating website for you.

Julia* lives in Maine and, though she says she’s had the most success meeting people via Bumble, kept Tinder for her work trips. “I’ve held onto Tinder because it’s used more internationally,” she says. “I used to travel abroad alone for work a lot and would just get super bored. I downloaded Tinder for the first time in Buenos Aires because I wanted to practice my Spanish. Even if I don’t go out with anyone, at the very least it’s entertaining to scope out people in foreign cities.”


If you want to join Raya, be prepared to do a little legwork. After downloading the app, you need to complete an application and have a referral from a current member. Your application is then assessed by certain algorithmic values before being evaluated by an anonymous committee. The entire process can take anywhere from several weeks from several months, and once you’re approved there’s also a monthly membership fee of $8.

Before we get started, our blanket recommendation for everyone is to find the apps with a larger user base in your area. That helps ensure you get plenty of matches, and by extension, a higher chance of finding someone actually compatible with you. If you try one of the niche apps and don’t get results after a week or two, we recommend ditching it entirely for a more popular option. If all else fails, our best recommendation is Tinder because, as stated, it’s popular everywhere. Good luck!
Why it's awesome: When we're blinded by love, we tend to ignore red flags and can't see when someone is all wrong for us — but friends can see it clear as day and wish we would just take their damn advice. Wingman is the unique take on dating that lets your friends play cupid, essentially making it the dating app version of the "Have you met my friend?" classic bar line. Your friends want to see you get laid (or find love, obviously) as badly as you do, and sometimes, they just know us better than we know ourselves. As Mashable's Cassie Murdoch writes, "...a little bit like handing your friend your Tinder or Bumble account and saying, 'Here, you deal with this.'" And sometimes, fancy algorithms just aren't enough.
Why it's awesome: Referred to as "Tinder for elites," The League is the dating app version of those really exclusive clubs that always have a line around the corner, terrifying bouncers, and a crazy cover. Okay, that kind of sounds like it's for assholes, but it's actually a comforting alternative if you're not trying to be thrown to the wolves like you would be on Match. ( The League CEO Amanda Bradford claims claims that it's actually a way for "alpha females" to find someone who celebrates and supports their drive.) It's overwhelming to skip past all of the sketchy randoms to get to the handful of good ones, and even then, they could totally be catfishing you. The League does the social media creeping for you, requires all users to connect a Facebook and LinkedIn account, and screens based on professional history to ensure that their dating pool is full of "intelligent, educated and ambitious" singles.
Why it's awesome: Referred to as "Tinder for elites," The League is the dating app version of those really exclusive clubs that always have a line around the corner, terrifying bouncers, and a crazy cover. Okay, that kind of sounds like it's for assholes, but it's actually a comforting alternative if you're not trying to be thrown to the wolves like you would be on Match. ( The League CEO Amanda Bradford claims claims that it's actually a way for "alpha females" to find someone who celebrates and supports their drive.) It's overwhelming to skip past all of the sketchy randoms to get to the handful of good ones, and even then, they could totally be catfishing you. The League does the social media creeping for you, requires all users to connect a Facebook and LinkedIn account, and screens based on professional history to ensure that their dating pool is full of "intelligent, educated and ambitious" singles.

Dating.com is seen as the top of the online dating tree and u can see why. Lots of people to talk to, easy to use, offline gatherings are easy to set up. I'd say of the four or five dating sites ive tried only wejustfit.com betters it. So much better than blind dates or being hooked up by mutual friends (oh the disappointments) and far cheaper too. Give it a shot if you're considering it there are good trial options for most dating sites and ive never had any problems. Gemma
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