In the modern era, online dating is so normal that anyone choosing to date without the help of the internet or an app is seen as the weird one. And honestly, given the degree to which technology has infiltrated every aspect of our lives (not to mention many people’s increasingly busy schedules) it makes sense. With more and more of our community engagement moving into the virtual world, there are fewer and fewer places that are actually conducive to approaching people and getting to know them in real life. Turning to online options means being able to meet more potential partners than you’d ever be able to otherwise! The one real drawback here is the abundance of options modern daters face -- there are so many sites and apps out there, and finding the right one (or ones) for you can be a tricky proposition.
Bumble was founded by Whitney Wolfe, a woman whose goal was to make dating (and now, even networking and friendship) more female-friendly. How that manifests on the app, for the uninitiated, is a Sadie Hawkins-esque interface that requires women to message their male matches first. Then men have 24 hours to respond or else the match is erased. (For women messaging other women and women-identified folks, either party can respond first.) Although this ostensibly puts the power into women’s hands, it’s also the biggest complaint I heard about Bumble while researching this piece, calling it “annoying” and “overwhelming” (and the reason a few dating-haters I spoke to defected to Tinder). But lots of respect to any app that's actually trying to make women feel safer online, and Bumble has made that its priority.
DateMySchool is a site for those who want to connect with people from their college; whether students or alumni. The site is mostly for verified college students and alumni. If you can fit the bill, however, the site gives you awesome features. The best thing about this site is that it shows you what other users are looking for and the strategies they are applying to get it. The site has only 200,000 users which makes it possible for a user to find a mate they spent four years in college with or someone in the same college they were in.
I’m going to assume I don’t need to introduce the concept of Tinder and its reputation to you. Obviously, I know people who've met their hookups on this app, but I also know people who've met on it and are now in serious (and lovely!) relationships. Tinder is what you make of it, but you do have to weed through a lot of people because you can only sort by age and location. I first downloaded the app about four years ago. While it might have changed since I’ve used it, I had a lot of nasty comments or “Wanna come over?” messages sent to me in the wee hours of the morning. I went on at least five horrible dates (like with the guy who told me my pictures weren’t doing me any favors) and a few amazing dates (like with the guy who I ended up seeing for close to six months). I’m not a fan of the swiping, or the unsolicited comments on my body, so eventually I retired it as an option.
A massive 20% of relationships and over 17% of marriages start online and there are hundreds of apps that claim to put love in the palm of your hand. It doesn’t matter whether you’re desperate to choose matching PJs or you simply fancy a flirt, connecting to like-minded people has never been easier. Here’s the lowdown on 5 of the best dating apps around:
If you’re tired of the back and forth of trying to schedule a date that works with your busy schedule, check out Now, an app built specifically to make that easier. Available in the Apple App Store and Google Play, it matches you with people based on your schedules. This probably isn't the best app for finding a meaningful connection, as it's based solely on you having free time simultaneously with another user, but it's a good way to schedule a lot of dates and have a lot of fun.
The Date: “I achieved the ultimate New York dream,” said Kate. “I got to go out with my hot random neighborhood crush thanks to Happn. We matched on the app, and I didn’t let it slip that I’d seen him walking to the subway every morning while I walk back from the gym for like four years until the third date. It didn't work out for other reasons, but he thought it was charming. He said.”
"International online dating" can be a confusing term, but it is pretty self-explanatory. It refers to dating apps and sites that focus on a global audience. Many singles are indeed looking for love beyond the US. One of the biggest benefits that this brings is a wider audience to choose from, whether you’re looking for Asian, Russian or simply international singles! After all...
That having been said, using an app to get lucky also has its downsides. Putting out feelers for a casual hookup to strangers you haven't met yet can get dicey fairly quickly. Figuring out the right approach can take some time, too. You want to make your intentions known, but you need to do so in a way that doesn't come off too strong or make her feel uncomfortable. You'll need to exchange a few messages to see if you two are feeling each other, but you don't want to become pen pals with someone you're just trying to get it on with, either.