Coffee Meets Bagel is matchmaking with a twist: guys on the dating app get up to 21 matches a day, which they can like or dismiss. Women are sent a curated selection of the men who have liked them, and can then choose to initiate a conversation (and they can also browse for a match). Like Bumble, there's also a countdown element: once you start chatting, you have 7 days before your shared chatting window is deleted.6 
They'll ask you the basics about yourself: Physical appearance, religion, if you smoke or drink, etc., and give you a range of responses that aren't just a hard yes or no. They'll also ask about your interests and hobbies, with choices like traveling and sight seeing, wine tasting, cooking, nightclubs and dancing, politics, religion, and volunteering. Because while the mushy, deep stuff is important, Match knows that your romantic partner should also be your best friend.
The website uses a credit system rather than a monthly or annual subscription fee. Credits are required for using features on the site such as contacting women, sending and receiving emails, and finding matches. The site charges $199.99 for 1000 credits, $47.99 for 160 credits, and $7.99 for 20 credits. The credit system can be confusing and the site would be served best through a standard membership fee. Despite being designed for men interested in foreign marriages, ForeignGirlfriend doesn’t have tools to help men serious about marrying their matches such as access to translators or immigration attorneys.
And then I found that CMB and OKCupid were just not as user friendly. I didn’t love the app experience and it seemed like most people were just looking for hook-ups there too. What I like about Hinge is that it’s not just driven by people’s pictures. When you build your profile, you’re forced to answer a series of questions — anything from your favorite movie to your best travel story or dream dinner guest. They’re all good questions because the responses give you a sense of who the person is and their interests. 
Why? It's the original “I don’t have the time to waste energy on people who don't find me physically attractive” app. I also believe people go on the app without a set idea of what they want overall, so the idea of a date and one-nighter is attractive and effortless. But that doesn’t mean everyone is opposed to relationships of growing from the first encounter.
While many dating sites follow a subscription-based model that requires you to pay to communicate with other members, some allow you to do so for free. Free sites typically make money via ads or paid upgrades that let members unlock additional features. While free sites have undeniable appeal, consider the flip side: Since it's easy to join, they may attract many users who only want a fling, or worse, scammers who have eyes only for your wallet.
Pitched at a slightly older, more professional crowd than many other dating apps (our average member age is 30-55), EliteSingles is a great fit for those who want to add love to their list of success. With high levels of education (91% of Canadian users are educated to Bachelor's degree level or higher); and a wide range of professions, EliteSingles members are interesting, dynamic people who are united by their desire to find a truly compatible match. 
The Date: “I achieved the ultimate New York dream,” said Kate. “I got to go out with my hot random neighborhood crush thanks to Happn. We matched on the app, and I didn’t let it slip that I’d seen him walking to the subway every morning while I walk back from the gym for like four years until the third date. It didn't work out for other reasons, but he thought it was charming. He said.”

OK, so it’s time to get serious with this one. The personality test on EliteSingles asks questions about how you look physically and what you’re like as a person. Are you tidy? Patient? Positive? Honest? And what is it you’re looking for? Don’t worry, you can answer the questions on a scale, rather than a hard and fast yes or no, so you can hedge your bets. It’s a pretty thorough matching process which is intended to weed out any duds, but make a cuppa and get comfy as it can take up to 25 minutes to complete.
Paid: Memberships cost $12.49 per month on a six-month membership, $19.98 per month on a three-month membership or $29.95 a month paid monthly. Memberships auto-renew unless you cancel your membership before it expires. With a paid membership, you can send and receive messages and winks, chat with connections, see profiles of those who have viewed yours, and get full access to Smartpick, Zoosk's matching services.
Similar to other traditional players, OKCupid has in-depth user bios, but profile building isn't long or tedious at all — the questions are smart (and not mushy) and they're genuinely fun to answer. It does use swiping like Tinder, but you have a lot more to go off of than a lame bio and a selfie. You'll even get to see the percentage of how much you have in common based on question answers (and how much you don't). Speaking of questions, OkCupid has some that you won't see anywhere else: The same-sex couple ads are an obvious giveaway, but OkCupid has snuck in questions to weed out more conservative-minded people as a way to tell right off the bat if your potential match leans left or right. (It's not perfect, but it'll help meeting in person go a lot smoother.) Liberal ladies found that this worked to their advantage, as OkCupid released statistics showing that liberal-leaning answers to those questions made you 80% more likely to find love on the site. The entire site's ethos is built around numbers, and it's nice to know they can actually back up their algorithms. 
One sign you may be chatting with a bot is that they continually urge you to buy goods and services. Bots are computer programs, which means you should also keep an eye out for odd responses or unnatural wording. While people slip up with the occasional typo, bots often phrase things strangely. Regardless of whether you think the person you’re talking to is real, never give out your credit card information; it’s not worth having your identity or money stolen.

Why? I'm happily married now and haven't used a dating app in 5-plus years. The big thing that set OKC apart from other options when I was a user: It was free. But this was before a lot of advances in dating services. Tinder didn't launch until 2012, and by that time I was invested enough in using OKC that it never occurred to me to try a different app. 


Coffee Meets Bagel is matchmaking with a twist: guys on the dating app get up to 21 matches a day, which they can like or dismiss. Women are sent a curated selection of the men who have liked them, and can then choose to initiate a conversation (and they can also browse for a match). Like Bumble, there's also a countdown element: once you start chatting, you have 7 days before your shared chatting window is deleted.6 
That having been said, using an app to get lucky also has its downsides. Putting out feelers for a casual hookup to strangers you haven't met yet can get dicey fairly quickly. Figuring out the right approach can take some time, too. You want to make your intentions known, but you need to do so in a way that doesn't come off too strong or make her feel uncomfortable. You'll need to exchange a few messages to see if you two are feeling each other, but you don't want to become pen pals with someone you're just trying to get it on with, either.
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