Having being created in the year 1995, match.com is one of the largest and oldest dating services on the Internet. Match.com serves users from over 24 countries and hosts its websites in 15 languages. Users create profiles and describe themselves and what they are hoping to find in the people they might date. These profiles and other tools are key to finding that special person.
Coffee Meets Bagel is matchmaking with a twist: guys on the dating app get up to 21 matches a day, which they can like or dismiss. Women are sent a curated selection of the men who have liked them, and can then choose to initiate a conversation (and they can also browse for a match). Like Bumble, there's also a countdown element: once you start chatting, you have 7 days before your shared chatting window is deleted.6
Bumble is a happy bubble of dating zen. Built to be safe and respectful of everyone, the app feels far more up to date than its competition, with modern language. For example, it asks you how you identify instead of just making you check a "male" or "female" box. It also puts all the power in the woman's hands—a man can't contact a woman unless she has shown interest in him first. Not looking for love? Bumble also offers a way to find new friends, and even a mini-LinkedIn-like section for professional connections.
On Bumble, women make the first move. Within 24 hours of matching, you have to send a message to the guy, or your connection expires and you won't be able to talk. Once you send a message, he also has to respond in 24 or the match expires. If you're Bumbling to find other women, either of you can make the first move on a match. Basically, they're trying to get you to stop hoarding matches and actually get out there and make magic happen!
The website uses a credit system rather than a monthly or annual subscription fee. Credits are required for using features on the site such as contacting women, sending and receiving emails, and finding matches. The site charges $199.99 for 1000 credits, $47.99 for 160 credits, and $7.99 for 20 credits. The credit system can be confusing and the site would be served best through a standard membership fee. Despite being designed for men interested in foreign marriages, ForeignGirlfriend doesn’t have tools to help men serious about marrying their matches such as access to translators or immigration attorneys.
The truth is, I’m not particularly kinky. I could have only vanilla sex for the rest of my life, if chemistry and skill were involved. But I don’t have to, and I’m happy to try lots of things. If I like someone and they have a very particular fantasy, it’s fun to experiment. You might be surprised by what turns you on, or at least enjoy the playfulness of attempting something new. This could happen on any app, but again, Feeld facilitates people saying what they want sooner rather than later—like, when you’ve already met their parents.
But this isn’t one of those stories where I tell you I downloaded one little app, swiped twice, and, to quote Tom Hank’s character Joe Fox, found “the one single person in the world who fills your heart with joy.” Whether it’s been because of a friend’s suggestion, trying to up my odds, or pure frustration with not getting messages back, I’ve downloaded and used a plenty of apps! So when the InStyle team was looking for volunteers to write a real-life, first-person review of dating apps, well… I guess we had a match. Read on for my findings:
Match takes time. With over 30 million monthly visitors, I'm sure you can guess that it takes a while to sort through them and finally come across your soulmate. That comes with time. Match guarantees that you'll find someone in six months — not one month. It's physically impossible to get through everyone on the site in a short amount of time. Since it's a site for serious relationships and not just hooking up, it could be very possible that matches will be hesitant about meeting in person until they're sure that they're interested. Overall, the process is just slower, and if this is something that is going to annoy you, we'd suggest a site where more immediate action is encouraged.
Once called '3nder', as in, Tinder for threesomes, Feeld is an app made specifically for finding threesome partners and exploring other facets of sexuality. You can join as a solo user, or sign up with a partner, and jump right in. You can also send other users disappearing messages, and there's an 'incognito' mode where you don't show up to any Facebook friends. Great for avoiding a potentially awkward water cooler conversation come Monday morning.
Hinge may seem like it plays second-fiddle to the likes of Tinder, but it has a pretty elite user base (99 percent of its daters went to college, for example). Hinge’s CEO compared his app to Facebook, versus Tinder’s Myspace—sometimes for interface reasons (Hinge is aimed at the college-educated set) and sometimes for class reasons (much has been written on the ways dating app algorithms may favor white people).
If you've been on other dating sites before, you know that homepages can get pretty wonky. Notifications for 10 different ways of messaging pop up, blinking ads with naked parts interfere with clicking on things, and potential matches are plastered everywhere. Having a lot of options is obviously a good thing, but when there's a collage of singles with infinite scrolling, it's easy to get overwhelmed.
Specifying the age range and gender that you're looking for in a partner does squat to narrow down your options. Considering Zoosk sees a user base of about 40 million members, getting through all profiles that match your requirements could take ages, especially if you're looking for more than a hookup. By monitoring your swiping behavior, Zoosk can tap into your subconscious (okay, not really, but sorta) and give you what you want deep down. However, if you want to boost your profile or send more than a few messages, you'll have to buy and participate in Zoosk's coin game, which is more irritating than fun.