Before you jump in, make sure you’re not fooled (or overwhelmed) by the endless options. As with any website that requires your personal information — like your credit card, location and more — it’s important to read through the fine print of any website you browse. You don't want to invest your energy, confidence and hard-earned dough into something that isn't worth it. Not sure where to start or how to proceed? Luckily, we’ve completed the deep dive for you and have narrowed down the top sites to focus your energy and time. Though these are safe choices, there are some untrustworthy sites that make promises they can’t keep — from fake members to guaranteeing success.
Features for introverts: Since AFF has millions upon millions of users from around the world, there’s always a large group of people constantly using it 24 hours a day. No matter your kinks or sexual orientation and no matter the time of day or night, there’s someone on the dating site waiting for you to share your preferences, sexual desires, and maybe hook-up with you too. It’s like if New York City and Las Vegas had a baby. Adult Friend Finder is the dating site that never sleeps and whatever happens on the site, stays on the site. 

Once you’re a member, you can look through other user photos and see a person's name, age, location and Instagram handle. User photos are set to a song of their choice, which shows a little more personality than most other dating apps. You can also browse the app's map and see which users are closest to you. It has a rating of 4.6 out of 5 stars in the Apple Store and is relatively easy to use if you can get your foot in the door.


That sort of massive following is a selling point in itself, but Plenty Of Fish has more going for it than just pure size. It’s something of a “lite” version of other dating apps, and includes Tinder’s swiping mechanics, and a Happn-style ability to see matches near to you. It does have its own little twists on the formula — POF’s “Spark” system allows users to quote any part of their amour’s profile, making icebreakers that much easier.
Recommendations: "The Bumble app is free and I have had the most dates with this app. It's an easy format and given the female makes contact first, you can eliminate unwanted attention. RSVP is good if you're looking for something more serious. You have to pay to contact the user, but the advantage is that you can see their photos and profile description."
Why it's awesome: On OkCupid, users can offer a ton of information about themselves through the site's Match Questions. Examples include: "Would you date someone who keeps a gun in the house?" or "Should the government require children be vaccinated for preventable diseases?" The answers to these questions help OkCupid determine which members might be a good match for one another. Of note: Per OkCupid's own stats, liberal women in particular have luck on the site. And in 2017, the site offered users the chance to answer 50 "current events" questions that illuminate a user's politics."OkCupid has been a favorite of mine for years," Spira says. "I always liked OkCupid because they have a great critical mass and they have the thought-provoking questions that really allow you to think about how you feel about some of these issues, whether it’s politics or gun control, and how do you feel about your date’s answers. People spend a lot of time on site just perusing the questions that other people answer, and I like that."
Sure, it has a goofy name and the phrase "Meet Your Everything Bagel" as its tagline, but there's more to Coffee Meets Bagel than the optics. Like other apps, CMB connects you to people with whom you share Facebook mutuals. But unlike other sites, CMB only lets women see men who have already swiped right on them, and only allows the woman to give out just five likes per day among those matches. (If you're looking for a same-sex relationship, the swiping experience is similar to that of Tinder, but users will only be shown one high-quality match per day.) While it might seem restrictive, that might be why it works.
Hinge may seem like it plays second-fiddle to the likes of Tinder, but it has a pretty elite user base (99 percent of its daters went to college, for example). Hinge’s CEO compared his app to Facebook, versus Tinder’s Myspace—sometimes for interface reasons (Hinge is aimed at the college-educated set) and sometimes for class reasons (much has been written on the ways dating app algorithms may favor white people).
SeekingArrangement is skewed toward young women seeking older men, though there are other websites and apps available as well. While the name of WhatsYourPrice might seem a little too on the nose, it has options available for both men and women to bid on potential dates. Happy Matches has a plethora of options for women seeking to financially support someone, as does Sugar Elite. However, it does cost money to use many of these services.

Signing up took us about 20 minutes during testing, which is more than twice as long as most of the websites we tested. You answer questions about not only about your appearance, but also about your religious beliefs and career. You then fill out a comprehensive survey regarding what you want in a partner. The questions even go as far to ask whether you want to have kids, which is an important thing to agree on if you're looking for a long-term commitment. You have to pay for a subscription to access most of the features on eharmony, and even though we couldn't read them with a free account, we got nine emails in 24 hours, which was a pretty decent response rate. There is also an eharmony app that's easy to use, making this a great service to try if you want a thorough experience.
About the App: Christian dating doesn't get any better than on ChristianMingle. With the free app, available on any iOS or Android device, you can browse the more than 2.4 million Christian singles. Since you already know that everyone is on the same religious page, you can focus on other things like age, distance, hobbies, and education to make a deep connection with someone of the same faith.

For our fake dating profiles, we counted how many matches and messages we received in 24 hours. We also noted whether you could block or report inappropriate behavior, how long the profile setup process was, how in-depth setup questions were, and whether we encountered any obvious bots (fake profiles like ours). For sites that require you to “like” users to get matches, we did so to the first 30 accounts we came across.
Another free site, Plenty of Fish (free), claims to be "the world's largest dating site" and says it has 150 million registered users worldwide. That's a staggering number, but how many of those accounts are active is unclear; there were 23 million unique monthly visitors in November 2016, according to Statista. There is a broad age range: As of 2016, the site said 20 percent of users were 18 to 24, 38 percent were 25 to 34, 22 percent were 35 to 44, and 20 percent were 45 or older. Experts say the large user base sets Plenty of Fish apart, but they warn that quantity does not necessarily mean quality. Users indicate this might be a better place for casual dating instead of serious relationships.
No matter the reasons why you find yourself single after the age of 40, diving back into the pool of eligibility can bring hesitation, confusion and fear. After all, you are no longer an innocent teenager. You have been around the block — and then some — and you are likely more stuck in your ways than you realize. Thanks to the advice of your dating gurus (whoever they may be), you decided to throw out your email address or Facebook into the wide world of online dating. Feel like a fish out of water? That's normal, but many of the more modern dating sites that promote swiping your way to a good time — like Bumble, Tinder, or Hinge — might not be to your liking. Or, in other words, if you are aiming for a serious encounter, you need to put your energy in the right direction.
As for how to approach potential hookup partners you've matched with, transparency and manners are important, as always. "The key to initiating a hookup over a dating app is to exercise patience," says Caleb Hacke, health and wellness expert at Maple Holistics. "Ultimately, it's more important to make sure you don't offend or put off anyone who isn't interested in a hookup than it is to get your point across as boldly and as quickly as possible."
If you’re tired of the back and forth of trying to schedule a date that works with your busy schedule, check out Now, an app built specifically to make that easier. Available in the Apple App Store and Google Play, it matches you with people based on your schedules. This probably isn't the best app for finding a meaningful connection, as it's based solely on you having free time simultaneously with another user, but it's a good way to schedule a lot of dates and have a lot of fun. 
Features for introverts: Instead of swiping, browsing, poking, and messaging your way into someone's inbox only to never hear back, this app will send you a potential match every day at noon. Men receive curated matches based on the algorithm and women will only be presented with potential matches (called Bagels) that have already expressed interest. 
True to its word, POF has the highest number of users in this list. The site has 40 million users (fish). You get the full package for free but like other free sites, there are a plethora of premium packages that you can buy such as seeing when other users read your messages. POF was among the first online dating sites and as such, they have been able to refine the site to up user experience. Currently, POF is the fourth most visited dating site in the world.
Finding love in the age of Tinder is no easy feat. Instead of phone calls, there’s the cryptic text message; instead of maturely calling it quits, there’s ghosting (or worse, breaking up via Snapchat); and instead of blind dates, there is a veritable sea of dating apps to navigate. Are you busy and ambitious? Do you read your horoscope every morning? Can you craft a perfect playlist? There’s a dating app for you! Unfortunately, finding the right dating app isn’t so easy (as if finding a perfect match weren’t hard enough).
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Hi world, Lara here, and I'm single. However, I have recently decided that I might want to pursue finding someone to sit on my couch with me while I eat peanut butter, get high, and watch 90 DAY FIANCÉ: BEFORE THE 90 DAYS, aka my ideal relationship. Therefore, I embarked on a journey. And that journey was trying out as many dating apps as I could stomach.
If you know getting a dog or merging dog families with a partner in the future is a must for you, get on Dig right now. This app shows you five potential matches a day, with filters for people who also have dogs and people who don’t have dogs but want one in the future. You can also sort through dogs by size, so if you’ve got a teeny teacup yorkie, you can find them an equally lil’ bud.
A majority of us probably have a Facebook, Google+, or Instagram account (or a combo of the three), so instead of having to repeat yourself on a dating app, check to see if you can sync up one of your existing profiles. Your information and photos can be pulled in a matter of seconds, and you can get to browsing that much sooner. More than likely, the app will also use your social profile to find matches for you based on friends of friends and will have a policy about never posting on your behalf.

Matching: to register, you fill out a profile, which you can do by signing up with Facebook, and then can choose to fill out an extensive compatibility survey. You can meet singles using two methods: by searching for them, using the "Carousel" (which works similarly to Tinder) or using SmartPick (which evaluates compatibility between Zoosk members and makes match recommendations). Zoosk claims to learn from your actions as you use the site, therefore making more suitable matches as you use the site more.
Tinder is great app for hookups mainly due to the sheer number of users that are on it (a respectable 57 million as of 2019). Finding a willing hookup buddy in your area is undoubtedly a numbers game, and while not everyone on this app is on it for a casual fling, the odds are high that you'll be able to connect with users that are looking for something casual tonight. Not to mention, it's beyond easy to use. Create a profile with some photos, choose an age and location range for the person you're looking for, and start swiping (left to reject, right to accept). If you both dig each other, you'll be able to send messages to get things started.

The Date: But my most horrific online dating experience has come from Bumble. I was talking to this guy, and we really clicked; we had the same humor and even the same horoscope sign. But once we got to know each other, I found out he used to be a drug addict, which really scared me away from dating for a while (I ended up ghosting him because I couldn’t handle it). But when it comes to dating online or in person, you have to take the same stance that you would expect your father too: Don’t take any crap, and always remember that the good ones take time to find.
While Zoosk might not be popular with the younger American crowd, this international dating app has quite a presence around the world. With more than 35 million members – from the United Kingdom and Canada to Australia and throughout Europe – this app is definitely ideal if your fast-paced career has you traveling far and wide. You have the opportunity to meet singles from many countries, casting a much wider net than you would stateside. Since its founding more than a decade ago, Zoosk has invested in what it means to create a lasting, loving connection, changing its algorithm and offerings throughout the years to meet its members' needs.

Honestly, I love this idea: Meeting with a group in a place like a bar is a seriously low-pressure way to meet new people who are looking for the same thing as you, and if you're really too nervous to ask someone on a first date, one of these events would be a great time to meet up in a chill group setting. Someone will host the event, of course, so it won't just be this awkward free for all, and they'll make sure that everyone gets introduced without it feeling unnatural. Plus, if you're traveling or going on vacation soon, Match also offers the option to check out local events in other areas — just change your city at the top of the "Events" section. Match genuinely goes above and beyond the usual dating site features to get you out of your comfort zone and up your chances of meeting the one. 

Why it's awesome: When we're blinded by love, we tend to ignore red flags and can't see when someone is all wrong for us — but friends can see it clear as day and wish we would just take their damn advice. Wingman is the unique take on dating that lets your friends play cupid, essentially making it the dating app version of the "Have you met my friend?" classic bar line. Your friends want to see you get laid (or find love, obviously) as badly as you do, and sometimes, they just know us better than we know ourselves. As Mashable's Cassie Murdoch writes, "...a little bit like handing your friend your Tinder or Bumble account and saying, 'Here, you deal with this.'" And sometimes, fancy algorithms just aren't enough.

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