By the fifth date, I was exhausted. One day I scheduled meeting two different guys on the same day. Not meeting anyone stimulating, I decided to cancel the app, but right before I did, I connected to someone who wanted to meet up that weekend. I thought to myself, This is the last one. On my way out, the app asked me why I was quitting, and I clicked the option: I didn’t meet anyone. Boy, was I wrong.
Why? I pretty much only use Hinge now. I have tried almost all of them: Tinder at one point in college, Bumble, OKCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel .... I found that Tinder was mainly for hook-ups and while I liked that guys were less grimy on Bumble, I’m pretty shy so I didn’t like that I had to be the one to initiate conversation. (Editor's Note: Women seeking men must message first on Bumble; for women seeking women, that rule goes away.)
Ashley Madison is all about cheating but this does not make it less popular. The site has garnered over 20 million users and the number continues to grow. When joining, you are asked to choose your relationship status; either “attached male seeking female” or “attached female seeking male”. The site repeatedly stresses that it is 100 percent discreet.
This is a very simple service. The website operators want to keep it that way. The startup procedure is along these lines: State whether you are a gay or straight man or woman. Then press “Continue.” Joining is 100 percent free. This website has promised never to charge members for the service it offers, period. The site has unlimited chatting too. So find someone you like, then, once they’ve accepted you, let the chatting begin!
We have to give a shoutout to Match's web developers: The site actually looks nice. If you're someone who appreciates a clean, minimalistic design, you'll be more than content here. For those who've grown accustomed to design-forward sites and apps, Match hits that mark. It has all of the stuff you need, and none of the stuff you don't. The desktop version is good, but the smartphone app version is even better. This is smart, as most people are on the go and will be using Match on their phone way more than on their computer.
The Nuts and Bolts: It’s easy to use and has a simple interface, but you do have to pay to go back to a previous swipe, which is lame. This app is the pioneer of swiping, which in its own right gives it a five out of five. That being said, Tinder is overrated: There are the ads, the inability to swipe backward, and almost too many people on it now. Everyone uses it now, so the pool of potential partners isn’t the best, and the user experience is now a pay-to-play kind of experience.
Hinge is kind of like Tinder. OK, it’s a lot like Tinder — but with a few key differences that make it better. Interface-wise, it looks like Tinder’s younger sister. But function-wise, it relies more on your Facebook friends to make connections for you. Hinge connects you through friends-of-friends-of-friends and shows you not just the people you have in common, but all the interests you have in common. It does this by having you answer a bunch of questions through a Tinder-like interface. Have you been to Berlin? Swipe right. Don’t play croquet? Swipe left. This makes answering questions far easier and less time-consuming, not to mention more fun. The questions themselves aren’t as asinine as those in some other dating apps, and give you a better sense of someone than 500 characters might.
The initial questionnaire only takes above five minutes, and bam: You're set up with an account, ready to meet matches. However, there's a ton more stuff you can add to your profile to give potential matches even more info. Adding more is optional, so you can totally be mysterious if you want — but if you're picky or want to avoid future disagreements, I'd suggest filling out some more sections.
That having been said, using an app to get lucky also has its downsides. Putting out feelers for a casual hookup to strangers you haven't met yet can get dicey fairly quickly. Figuring out the right approach can take some time, too. You want to make your intentions known, but you need to do so in a way that doesn't come off too strong or make her feel uncomfortable. You'll need to exchange a few messages to see if you two are feeling each other, but you don't want to become pen pals with someone you're just trying to get it on with, either.